Are your friends keeping you fat?
Quick question, though.
How many of you are going to be spending time in the company of people who make you happy, make you laugh a lot and keep you feeling positive over the Christmas holidays?
I’m feeling very positive and energised at the moment. Actually I feel like I could do anything I put my mind to right now. There’s a reason for that. Want to know my secret? I’ve just invested in a course with an amazing coach who has really pushed my buttons, got me fired up. He’s made me feel like I want to up my game and, more importantly, he’s made me feel like nothing is outside of my grasp. I’m studying the course online and then there’s a live webinar once a week where I get to ask him questions.
Let me tell you, I’ve invested quite a bit in improving myself. I’ve done some amazing courses in the past. But I’ve also chucked good money down the drain on some stuff that I’ve barely even looked at. But this guy is so good I’m finding hard to drag myself away from him once I start studying. And that’s purely because of the way he makes me feel.
That’s why I asked you that question at the top of this piece. Because if you’re trying to lose weight and transform your body, the last thing you need to do is to spend time in the company of people who don’t support that.
You know the sort of people I mean. We all know them actually.
They don’t like you making the healthy choices if you go to dinner. “It’s only one little dessert. It can’t be that bad for you. Who’s going to know? You can just eat less tomorrow.”
They take it as a personal insult if you turn down a drink. “Blimey, great company you are. It’s the weekend for God’s sake. What’s wrong with you?”
They try and talk you out of training. “Haven’t you done enough this week? You’re getting obsessed. All this exercise is no good for you, you know. Didn’t you see it on the news….”
Yep, we all know those people. Some of us may even be living with them. You know what they all have in common? They’re not happy with themselves secretly. But they’re not doing anything about it, even though they know they should. Your motivation, your healthy eating, your opting to swerve the drink because you know it will stop you burning fat for up to six days is just holding a mirror up to them. And they don’t like what they see.
So they try to bring you back to their level to make themselves feel better. And they’re crafty. They use techniques that make you feel guilty or boring. They don’t mean any serious harm by it but they are harming your efforts nonetheless.
They just want you to stay the way you are so that you can all sit in your comfort zones together, eat and drink crap and get bigger and more unfit in the mistaken belief that this is the fun way to live.
But you know different.
The fun way to live is being being excited about going on a night out because you fit in all your nice clothes, not hoping you’ll never be invited anywhere because you’re running out of shapeless tops and extra stretchy leggings again.
The fun way to live is getting up on your day off with bags of energy and making the most of all your free time, not dragging yourself out of bed in the afternoon with a hangover.
The fun way to live is, well, to live. Not exist.
The bottom line is, truthfully, at times it is hard to eat well and train hard. You don’t need to make it even harder by spending your time with people who want to help you sabotage yourself.
Your free time is hard-earned. Spend it with friends and or family who make you feel like you can do anything you want, smash any goal you set yourself, support your decision to be the best version of you that you can be.
Those friends are out there. Just ask anyone who trains with me at Fitness Camp Academy South Liverpool. It’s a bunch of like-minded people sharing banter, recipes and keeping each other focused. In fact, if you get chance, click on this link and read the story of my client Sara Dooley who has lost almost three stone since joining us four months ago. http://pammcvitie.co.uk/inspiring-weight-loss-story-youll-ever-read/
Have an amazing weekend. Spend it with positive, happy, people who want you to succeed and are happy to support you. Because the truth is, when you lose weight, get fit and become really confident in yourself they’ll be the first ones to reap the benefits of this fabulous version of you.